Self Esteem



February 18, 2018

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

 How can one love when one does not feel loved? We are to make love our aim, but many wish someone would aim some love toward them. We could compare love to a spring of water. As we continue to give it away there is always more. For many the spring of love that is related to our self esteem seems to be polluted. Lack of self esteem seems to touch many lives. Many deal with an endless struggle to think well of themselves. We try to satisfy our needs with money, material things, power, or recognition. They seek to silence the voice that whispers that you are not good enough. Jesus warned us, “What does it profit a man if he gains the world, yet loses his own soul?” (Luke 9:25) What can we do about feelings of inferiority?

How can we manage the emotion of self esteem and self worth?

1.                  We Must Change Our Minds About Love

Love is more than a feeling, more than sentiment, more than liking those who like us back and are like us. (Matthew 5:46) Our text today reveals that love is active goodwill that shows itself in character and behavior. Love seeks to do what is genuinely helpful and redemptive. It is more an act of the will than feeling. We must grow into love by our thoughts and actions. Verses 4-7 are a good place to start. You might begin by matching you attitudes and actions with God’s description of love in action.

Are you patient? Do you will to be this week?

Are you kind? Do you will to be today?

Continue down the list!

2.                  We Must Be Willing To Give

Jesus said, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Luke 6:38) Give yourself to the Lord, life and others. Stop waiting for life to happen to you; you must happen to life. If you don’t feel these things it could be that they are buried beneath your selfishness, loneliness, and hurt. Jesus did not tell us what to feel, he told us what to do. If you follow Him you will find that life returns to the giver much more that to the taker.

What can you give that doesn’t cost a thing?

Are you living for this world that is quickly passing away or the world that is to come that will last forever?

God gave His only Son! Jesus gave His very life! He calls us to give Him everything!

Remember you are a manager not an owner! The spirit of giving is a strong indicator of self worth and self esteem!

3.                  We Must Love

Give love in a form that is appropriate to active goodwill. Say yes to human need. Yield to the prompting of the Holy Spirit. Many of us unlovable people have the greatest needs. Don’t wait for love to happen to you, make love happen. The other day I received a hand written letter of love and encouragement. Someone took the time to give love. The handwritten message on the front of the card simply said God loves you! What a blessing! Others may give us the impression that we are not acceptable, but we are the ones who wrongly believe it. Feeling inferior is our own choice. God’s Holy Word says, “The Spirit himself testifies with our spirits that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and joint-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in His sufferings in order that we may also share in His glory.” (Romans 8: 16-17) A person may not need complicated in depth counseling. They may need to be encouraged to remember the joys of their childhood. To sing songs they learned as a child. To dance with someone in joyous celebration! To be embraced with a hug of tenderness. In other words to be loved! It is here that a person’s self esteem is elevated as we simply follow the pattern of God’s love revealed and received!

How could you love someone this week?

How would you like to be loved?

Why not experience your true value and worth this week through the love of God?